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Family To Do List

Simple and sociable things to do around a table in winter that don't involve eating:

• Cutting out paper snowflakes in all kinds of colors.
• Making orange and clove pomanders in untraditional patterns.
  
• Decoupaging bottles, plates, trays or cigar boxes with cutouts from holiday cards and magazines.
• Making bird feeders from pine cones, peanut butter and seed.
• Playing games like Boggle, Smartmouth, Scrabble, and Spit.

It's surprising how these basic pleasures can truly engage all ages, and become  the high point of a holiday at home.

Simple Homemade Gift No. 2

A jar, can, or bag of homemade granola with the recipe  It's simple to make and always well received.  

Our homemade granola recipe can be found here.

Simple Homemade Gift No. 1

A pretty cork-stoppered bottle filled with a simple vinaigrette.  My crowd pleasing recipe came via the chef at a house we stayed at on Mustique while on one of Bill's shoots for the Conde Nast Traveler.  She said she got it via the New York Times years ago.
6 TBS (or parts) Olive Oil

3 TBS (or parts) White Vinegar

1 TBS (or part) Sugar

1 TBS (or part) French’s Yellow Mustard

salt and pepper

dried basil

1 or more crushed clove garlic


I include the recipe on a hang-tag, crediting Matilda form Mustique.

Chappy Chanuka

It’s December 9, and Christmas-mania is upon us.  As a mixed-breed family (Andrea Jewish, Bill Catholic), we have forged our own holiday traditions, customizing a meaningful way to celebrate both special times with our family.  Now, truth be told, Chanuka, which begins at sunset on December 11th, just can’t compete with Christmas in terms of the decorative possibilities, the music choices, the lights and the pageantry. So, from the beginning, we’ve never tried to equate them. We intentionally set up a low-key, yet ultimately satisfying and meaningful way to celebrate the Jewish holiday of lights.

Early on, we learned that trying to make Chanuka more special by giving gifts all eight nights was a recipe for tears.  The holiday became about what they were “getting” that night.  Somehow, there was built-in disappointment, as so much rode on that one gift.  An unattractive greed seeped in, no matter how carefully we explained to the kids how things were going to work over the course of the eight nights.  So, here’s what we began to do, and it gave Chanuka its own shape and specialness, separate and distinct from Christmas.

The primary activity for each night of Chanuka was the lighting of the candles.  Each kid had his or her own menorah, whether an old family one or a homemade one.  They got to pick out their own candle color scheme, put them in themselves, and most exciting, light them.  On the first night of Chanuka, each child got a stack of gifts, big and small, but a nice pile to tear through.  And that was it for the gifts.

Aside from the menorahs, the constant for Chanuka every year was a big jar of dreidls that came down from the attic, along with a stack of Chanuka books and videos collected over the years.  After that, we had something out of the ordinary planned for each of the other seven nights.  One night we’d have a party with each child allowed to invite a friend and their family, with latkes (the smell, oh, the smell), decorations, dreidl, candles, and the exchanging of small gifts (dollar store type stuff).  Every year, we’d find some Chanuka-related crafts.  (Check the internet, there’s plenty of them!)  Another night, we’d have dinner with friends.  It didn’t matter if they were Jewish or not; the idea was to share our traditions with others.  One night we’d go ice-skating or night sleigh-riding, or to a movie.  Another night, we would do some charitable activity, whether it was to provide meals to a homeless shelter, or bring donations to a community center.

Usually, by this point, it was enough for the remaining nights to light candles and eat more latkes.  Everyone was happy and sated, and it was, for all, a Happy Chanuka!